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Tiana Dodson

Do you hate confrontation like I do? (Plus invitations!)

published11 months ago
2 min read

Hello Reader!

Last week, I had a disagreement with a friend.

I hate confrontation. Really, really hate it. And I find that I'm only comfortable enough to confront someone when I feel a certain way. For many people, that might be when they find themselves fed up. You know, that "straw that broke the camel's back" situation. Or when they have no more fucks left to give.

But for me, it doesn't matter how over it I am, how upset I may be, or how close I am to blowing my top. I just. don't. like. confrontation.

It's a funny thing, really, considering the work that I choose to do is somehow all about confrontation.

But strangely enough, no matter how personal the pushback I’m getting from folks who engage with my work may be, since it’s based in my very real identities and lived experiences, I’m very rarely clapping back at a single person. That makes it easier for me. The targets of my ire are systems of oppression and the actions of people who uphold them... not the actual people.

So when I get into a place where I have perceived a difference, a point of contention, or disagreement, I always have to check in deeply with myself. Because confronting someone... some one person, takes a lot out of me. It activates so much of my trauma, of my negative history, of my fears.

That deep self check I do consists of several questions:

  1. How much do I really care?
  2. What is my relationship to this person?
  3. What is my desired outcome?
    4. Am I prepared for what comes next?

What am I actually asking myself with these questions?

Click here to read the rest of this on my blog!

All my big, fat love,

Tiana

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New Episode of The Live Your Best Fat Life Podcast

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